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Simple Style Updates for Spring

It's Spring! Well, not quite. But, if you happen to visit your local mall, it's easy to think that warmer days are just around the corner.  The stores are filled to the brim with light and bright tops and T's, sunny accessories and flirty footwear.

So, what will we be wearing in Spring or 09?  The good news is that there`s no radical trend shift.  Many of your looks of last year and wardrobe staples can be worn again and easily brought up to date with a few new pieces.  There are three key items: a soft scarf, something bright and denim that`s light!

1. The scarf - We`re talking a soft, long and flowing Bohemian version. Wrap loosely around your neck and update just about any jacket or top. The colour choices are endless so select something to complement your complexion. Take a look at this relaxed look from The Gap.

Gap scarf

  


2. Something bright - Hot pink is the, er, hot colour of the season. Of course, you don`t wear it head to toe. Just add a pink punch to khaki and whites with a totally up to date T like this one from Roots or an awesome accessory, like this terrific tote from Payless and colourful Roots classic.

Roots t

Payless bag

Roots bag

Pink may not be the perfect choice for eveyone,so also be on the look out for other hot colours such as fiery orange and brilliant blues.  These tops are from Banana Republic and Esprit.

Br top 

Esprit long t

3. Denim that's light! Who would have thought it! Distressed denim is ba-ack! So if you`re ready to update your jeans or jean jacket you may want to consider this 80s obsession. Select only one light denim item and wear with more structured pieces andéor solid colours. To be totally on trend, pick a pair of relaxed boyfriend jeans. I`d recommend that this look best suits taller types.   So, if you are on the shorter side go for full length, rather than the cropped version, and balance out your body with a more tailored top. These looks are from Victoria`s Secret and American Eagle.

Vs relaxed boyfriend

Ae jean jacket

All these items take me back to the 80s. Who would have thought (certainly not moi) that the decade of doubful style-sense would have such an influence on our looks today? So dust off your Duran Duran memorabilia and get inspired to go back to the future.

Posted at 08:01 AM in Style File | Permalink | Comments (2)

What's my Motivation?

Rob-avatar Why does getting your child to do something for you one day seem so simple, yet another day seem almost impossible? The good news is that educational researchers from around the world have also wondered the same thing, and have found some answers. Just like the proverbial struggling actor trying to define his character, it comes down to the simple question of, "What's my motivation?"

Types of motivation …

Things that motivate your child can all be organized into two main categories: intrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) factors. When kids are intrinsically motivated they do not need external forces or pressures to motivate them, they do something because it feels good, they like to do it, or they value the outcome. However, other times the only way to motivate a child is through extrinsic factors such as offering a reward or a punishment.

Motivating students …

One traditional approach used to motivate students in school is to use grades as a reward or extrinsic motivator–telling students that if they work hard, they will learn, get good grades and/or pass or graduate. This system typically works well for students who already get good grades.

Similarly grades can also be used as a punishment – telling students that if they don't work hard, they will get poor grades and/or fail. While this approach can improve results for some, it doesn't work well with students who repeatedly experience low grades or failure.

Enter better techniques …

The good news is that in 1998 a comprehensive review of over 250 studies on student achievement was conducted by two British researchers (Paul Black and Dylan William), resulting in several key changes schools and parents can make when giving feedback. These included: (1) giving more on-going (formative) feedback instead of waiting until the end (summative), and (2) being more descriptive in the feedback / assessment data given.

Assessment for learning …

While final tests and other methods used to assess how much we know at the end of a unit are still important, the studies showed that is the on-going or formative feedback that students receive that can make the biggest difference in how well they do. After all, regularly telling a person what they are doing well, or areas they need to improve allows for correction along the way instead of waiting until the very end.

Using descriptive feedback …

As well as making feedback more frequent, researches found giving specific feedback about the quality of the work, strengths, and weaknesses helped to improve both student motivation and performance—as they could better see what they are doing right and the areas that still need improvement. For example, instead of getting a "C" written across the top of the test, comments could read something like: "You recognized which word problems required addition. However, keep practicing addition with re-grouping." Both forms of feedback show the learner how he/she did overall, however descriptive feedback also helps the student see how close he/she is, and where to focus or make adjustments in order to improve.

So whether you are trying to motivate your child to do chores around the house, or teach him/her in school, the experts agree … give lots of descriptive feedback (praise & guidance) along the way, and an easier time is sure to be had by all.


About the author


An award-winning educator and Parenting & Youth Coach, Rob Stringer BA, BEd, CPC has spent almost two decades helping kids, teens, and adults meet with success, and live lives they LOVE! Although based outside of Toronto, Rob's coaching practice is global with teen and adult clients around the world.

Ready to give your child a head start on success? Check out Rob's coaching programs and workshops for parents and youth. Visit www.YouthCoachCanada.com or call 905.515.9822.

Posted at 11:09 PM in School/Education Expert | Permalink | Comments (2)

2008 - A Year in Review

Douglas_kristine There is no doubt that 2008 will be remembered as one of the most remarkable years in the history of the global stock market (and not in a good way). Events have occurred that almost nobody could have predicted, although many seem obvious in hindsight. However, we must move forward. We can't dwell in the past-we have to learn from it. So what can we find out from the previous downturns?

1987 Black Monday - It was the largest one-day market decline in history. The general reaction by investors was a huge dumping of stocks, good and bad. The panic crystallized losses, and many investors went to cash to avoid further trouncing-not a wise move for long-term investors. The markets recovered, but many investors were not able to participate in the upturn because they had sold out and were waiting for "just the right moment" to get back into the market.

1990-91 Recessions - Companies were laying off staff by the thousands (just as at present). They restructured, cut costs, merged with competitors, and did all the things they should have done in the good times, but didn't because times were good. Investors, scared by the glum news, continued to wait on the sidelines. Unfortunately, all this cost cutting and restructuring led to companies making unprecedented profits and therefore optimum stock market performance for the next 10 years (with a few bumps along the way).

2000 - Everything was great, especially in the fancy new technology companies. Most people felt that the old way of doing business was out and that if it was on the Internet, it would lead to profits. Unfortunately, what really went out the door was the ability for people to use common sense and calculators. We all know the result of overbuying in a particular sector…a big drop! This plunge frightened perfectly reasonable investors out of the market once more and out of good companies. Again they waited on the sidelines until the markets were high and again moved back to risky investments.

Current Times 2008 - What I’ve seen is a reminder of just how much capitalism is dependent on confidence. What we are experiencing in the stock markets is a lack of confidence, but what we are certainly not seeing is a lack of good investment opportunities. This is not a crisis of business fundamentals (most, but not all, businesses are still very strong), but a crisis of confidence in investing in the future.

Without confidence, the price of any asset (stocks, bonds, commodities, real estate, and your car) becomes separated from its true value. If investors lose faith and trust in the process, asset prices become disconnected from expectations of future earnings and profits and are left to nightmarish emotional scenarios. When this happens, a fundamentally good investment can appear to be worthless overnight simply because nobody will buy it, as they are convinced that the prices will fall further. Rather than making careful assessments of future earnings and risk versus reward, potential buyers prefer to wait until sanity returns. Of course all this waiting and lack of purchasers pushes prices down further, increasing the downward spiral.

As we head into 2009, I believe times will stay tough over the year. And, as a result, they will do as in every recession - cut costs, re-structure, announce lay-offs, buy up competitors at reasonable prices, and all the things they neglected when times were good. This inevitably leads to higher profits and stock growth (we just don't know when).

Control what you can…your own spending!  Know what you can truly afford and what should be put on hold until times get better.

Here are some positives as I look out into 2009:
•    Companies' valuations are low, which means they are cheap compared to their revenues.
•    Oil prices are lower, which is good for everyone but oil companies and the Canadian dollar.
•    Banks are becoming more prudent and stricter in their lending practices
•    Bad investment lending companies have been removed, for example, Lehman Bros., Bear Stearns.
•    There is a global political effort to solve this mess that has never been seen before.
•    Lower interest rates for variable rate mortgages or lines of credit
•    Strong companies will show increases in dividends.
•    Obama and other global governments want to expand jobs and infrastructure spending.
•    Most importantly, we realize that downturns don't last forever - we just don't know when they will end. What we do know is that we would rather be in the market when it turns than sitting on the sidelines waiting for the magic moment to get back in.

2008 has been a trying period, but there is no other place I’d rather be than an advisor through these times.  Take time to set your goals and financial plan and get 2009 off to a good start!

Posted at 09:31 PM in Financial Management | Permalink | Comments (3)

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