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November 17, 2006

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Kath

ARGH! What is WRONG with these people!? I would also refuse a blanket. Frankly, I'm always mystified by women who CHOOSE to use a blanket. Even when my kids were tiny, like only a few months, they would reach up and yank that blanket away.

Oh, and as for being "discreet", don't get me started. I nursed #1 to 20 mths and #2 to 2.5 yrs, and one of the last times I remember nursing #2 was on a bench in front of the penguin enclosure at West Edmonton Mall (very public). She was not feeling well and was very cranky. I'm sure I got a few glances, but WTH - nobody would feel weird giving their cranky toddler a paci or bottle.

Overall, though, I'm sure I've had the odd disapproving look, but never a disapproving comment. And I've had plenty of positive comments, including a cute one from an old (80-ish) man, who leaned over to look at baby's face, only to find it firmly latched on to a boob. I expected him to be taken aback, but, he simply smiled and said, "good for you, dear" and went on his way.

Would that more of the world were like him.

Haley-O

That is APPALLING!!!
Interestingly, last week's The Office dealt with a woman breastfeeding in the workplace. There was a mix of disrespect and fascination. It was hilarious.
I breast fed on the plane...had no choice! I cannot believe that happened. I'm going to email and complain! Thanks for bringing this to our attention.

cinnamon gurl

Wow, punch me in the gut why dontcha? That story just knocked the wind out of me in a big way and I feel like tears are pricking my eyes. Especially because 1) we are planning a VERY long flight in January (to South Africa) with our nursing son who will be nearly 12 months, and you're so trapped on a plane you can't really choose a private place if you want to (I promised myself and my son I would NEVER nurse him in a bathroom)... and 2) I've pretty much decided to continue breastfeeding when I go back to work and have mostly decided I'll just do it for as long as he likes and 3) at a recent parenting workshop of weaning and making the decision we talked about the issue of nursing toddlers in public and how my sister has chosen not to nurse her 2 1/2 year old in public because some people think it's weird to nurse a toddler... and 4) because if someone offered me a blanket I would refuse it, if only because I haven't figured out how deal with a blanket on top of a squirmy won't stop moving baby... and 5) If I do nurse him for longer I have already decided that it may not be something I talk about with just anyone... so much to say. I will have to say it on my own blog when I catch my breath. Thank you for sharing this story...

Jeff

You know, we were in South Burlington, VT last fall for a wedding. We stayed for a week and during that time the only nursing mom I saw was my wife.

One woman actually came up to her as she nursed our daughter on a bench in the middle of a mall and whispered, "Good for you," in a hushed tone. We thought it was weird at the time, but reading this article it seems to be coming together.

I'm no so sure it's everyone or everywhere... might just be that area of the US.

Just tossing in $0.02.

Joanne

Wow - I can't believe crap like that still happens. I breastfed all of my babies, too, and while I'm aware it made some uncomfortable I can't imagine being in such a horrible situation. I'm not sure how I would have handled something like that. I probably would have taken the blanket and been totally embarassed. Bravo to that mom for standing up for herself.

metro mama

Thanks for this. Unbelievable. I'm off to sign petititions.

Mouse

OK, so I didn't read this until I wrote my own rant. It remains unfathomable to me that there continue to be frequent reports of such incidents. And while I didn't use the term misogynist, I think that certainly plays into it--and the misplaced priorities of North American culture. Breastfeeding is hard enough without worrying that the act can force you into the public spotlight.

Jen

What I find the most disturbing about this is that someone actually has the right to stop a mother feeding her child in favour of some imagined and/or misplaced discomfort from others. When do mothers get the respect they deserve for nurturing their children?

I nursed my daughter until she was 19mths and found that after she was about 6mths old people increasingly turned away with dissaproval and I found myself going further underground. To be honest, I didn't even admit to some of my friends that I was still breastfeeding as so many of them had talked about how it seemed "gross" once a child could lift up your shirt or ask for it using words. I bet if this was a small baby the circumstances would have been different.

This is simply discrimination. I admire the mom for refusing the blanket and defending her right to nurture and feed her child. Delta should be ashamed and apologetic, not definsive and self-righteous!

Sunshine Scribe

I signed. I emailed. And now I am applauding you for speaking out about it here.

AND I'll never fly Delta again.

I am hopping mad

Exiled to Canada

After you sign the petition why not deluge Delta with e-mails regarding their bad behavior:

http://www.delta.com/emailus/servlet/EmailUs?cmd=go

LAVENDULA

catherine that is so unbeleivable!i have breast fed all of my children and i have had people make comments about it to me.just because most men and some women think that our breasts our only sexual objects,we will always have some stupid ignorant person making comments about nursing.maybe people should mind their own business when it comes to breast feeding.

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